Refactor disarms (#36546)

* Refactor disarms

- Move client stuff to shared
- Cleanup a bunch of stuff
- Ref events
- Fix the swing sound mispredict (I noticed it on target dummies).

* Revert this change

* minor review

* Rebiew

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Co-authored-by: Milon <milonpl.git@proton.me>

Content.Server/Hands/Systems/HandsSystem.cs

@@ -98,7 +98,7 @@ namespace Content.Server.Hands.Systems
             }
         }
 
-        private void OnDisarmed(EntityUid uid, HandsComponent component, DisarmedEvent args)
+        private void OnDisarmed(EntityUid uid, HandsComponent component, ref DisarmedEvent args)
         {
             if (args.Handled)
                 return;